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sleep with more people towards the beginning of their dating/sexploration stage Sorry that I did not take the time to sift though all 240+ comments prior to posting my own. Lmao!!! I do not disagree with a lot you just said. Don't feel comfortable dating a high count girl/guy? This is definitely a hot topic. I can tell you first hand from experience that the man and woman that waits has a love affair that lasts a life time. You're a victim of western purity culture, where a woman's value is measured by how few men she'e slept with. Really man. I guess it really doesnt matter. Dont say something here different from what u will o. I think men and women should be judged the same. Again there is much more that can be said about this study and this topic. That is why at the very beginning I say I think it is best for people to wait with sex. While the next woman can be known around town and still have managed to not catch any STDs. Another reader mentioned that the man may have the fear of bumping into a past sex partner, but theres also the fear that her past really hasnt passed. of your own lifestyle before you start handing out nasty questions or comments such as the one above. I disagree with that comparison. She was a virgin until 24 and told me she really cared about it, it was important to her she was dating someone of her own culture for a short time, someone she probably trusted and he raped her, the selfish piece of shit raped her, probably if he was patient she would of trusted him enough anyway, so theres no point to do that, I dont get why she went home and her parents blamed her, she went to the police and they laughed at her she said she locked herself in her room for a week and cried, so they decided to put her on anti-depressents, a bunch of different types. I say this because the double standard doesnt stem from men not viewing women as equals, it stems more from wanting to control the behavior of women. Ive been through a lot growing up such as rape, molestation, and being beat on (molestation and rape are 2 different things). The more you can talk rationally and openly to her, the better the relationship will be. He already feels guilty and deeply regrets disappointing you. Im selfish like that.LOL. I agree with you. YOU WOULD OWN THAT SHIT. The fact is a matter of biology. /Especially/ when choosing a mate. You feel it might reflect on her character and increase her chances of cheating on you? You can say no, no, no as much as you like and deny up and down till youre blue, but that still doesnt get the idea about a woman, out of a mans mind. How can we embrace each other if we continue to hold over a persons head what they once did, and even allow it to overshadow what they do now. We dont know what that woman may have been going through or her full reasons for her choices. There are MANY self-respecting women with discipline and restraint who love sex, but have a low number of partners. As well, it is simply shameful to have such low standards as to have slept with dozens of people. (This was very rare for me. Because you know that men who want a real relationship not just sex dont like easy women, they dont like sluts who give it up to anyone who comes up to them with some confidence but has no brains & no prospects at all.yet they go off and sleep with them like they are gods gift to women.then move onto the next one the next weekend. So the inability to stay connected many times stems from the fact that their never was a connection to begin with. Is a depressed life worth living. Women have those same urges as well. Men and women are not the same and should not be judged the same. There is no double standard at all. Im selfish as well, because I sleep around a lot. So know this, men will have their values, its just sad u will bypassed becos of it. I really dont care whether you believe the truth of the matter or not, as I dont care whether you believe in evolution, gravity, or anything else. Yeah, but it does and that's the way a lot of people think. You look down on my age group, and yet the concept of girls sleeping around . Well at least the second one could get justified by necessity Would you marry a prostitute? If you dont believe me look at the types of non-black females black celebs go for. I've never been completely on the red pill stuff mostly on the more toned down r/seduction and general PUA stuff. Why is that so conveniently forgotten? Just know your not alone. Hi Stephan. If I find out that a woman I am dating has been a slut (based on my own personal definition since that is all that matter when Im choosing who to be in a relationship with), that disqualifies her from being in a serious relationship with me. I could go on forever but Ill stop here. Im tired of men having to settle for a woman that has been around the block.. Im saving myself for my wife It saddens me to see humans sleep with anything.. Men and women are worth more than that Smh -_-. Our passed has shaped our futures, so when a person refuses to tell you about their past, it's time to move on, because they have just shaped both of your futures, by refusing to open up. What youre looking at is her psychology. Its not likely to end up well (in terms of happiness and emotional satisfaction) for either the man or the woman. The issue runs deeper than that, and we should take a closer look as to what causes or contributes to people stepping out on each other. attractive to a potential suitor. Not sure if she is clued into how I've only had one sexual partner as again I am terrified to bring up this conversation about each of our amount of sexual partners. While media still shames yet sells women. No, I dont. This means avoiding certain male types, but it also means recognizing what you are doing wrong and whether the type of woman you are putting out there to the male population attracts or repels them. I am pointing out that sex is vastly different for men and women.. That is how we are made.. I believe this because I have been with someone that had many many partners. If you want to compete with this rest of the world then by all means go right ahead, Ill get in line right behind Wesley Pipes. discuss it. I'm a lot more attracted by personality than by physical beauty, although obesity is mostly a deal-breaker. (multiple boards, articles studies etc) evince its importance. I do not like the double standard but I cannot deny that it exists. Our pasts, now matter how much we embrace or deny them, makes us who we are. Here is what I can get from you: Just broke up few months ago from an LTR and first girl you were intimate with (? I have experienced half truths, stories with too many holes in them, and when I confronted her about the inconsistencies in her stories regarding her past lovers, she fabricated more lies. If you are that Datson? And what if the woman has had numerous partners because she's emotionally detached (which you also posted about)? Id like to think that its not all a hush-hush, giggle-giggle, shameful thing and that being adult means we can handle the reality that people mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, men and women have sex. So there is something much deeper going on. I say this all the time! However, the more partners a woman has had, the more likely her marriage is to fail. Society is so flawed at this point in our lives that I almost feel in-adequately experienced enough to even attempt to date. This statement makes no sense. And, it will happen. There are all kinds of reasons why things happen and who you were at one time doesnt necessarily mean you are the same person now. So the numbers are irrelevant. Yes, they will try to have their cake and eat it too, once they realize the error of their ways, but by then, its too late. To ride is free. You seem to be fairly obsessed yourself, and I seem to be controlling your time and responses today. LEsson learnt, men cant handle the truth, but they want to know everything, wise women, give information very selectively. Nobody wants to end up with the town whore who every guy has ridden. forgotten how to be committed. Theres no extra rewards to it. the article was written by a man, which happens to be me. She claimed that her promiscuity was in the past, but later on I found out it was still in her present. Bianca, why in the world would you think the number of men you have slept with should not matter? Common sense. HOLD ON TO THE SPIRIT OF JESUS CHRIST. You can do that without ever knowing how many partners she had. There is nothing pure about these women. It's a case of attraction. In my attempt to be understanding, I heard her out about everything including listening to her tell me that she was very intoxicated, was caught off guard each time (wasnt planned), liked ONE of the guys, and that the other guy was his best friend/roommate. Why must women be held to an higher standard than men? Serious question as this is a prob Im currently dealing withI met an amazing girl who I was 99% sure was my future wife. Being a guy in his thirties who has waited until marriage it gets really tiring to hear from so many people things like Your future wife isnt going to be a virgin so shut up and get over it or Her sexual past shouldnt matter now stop whining and man up or my personal favorite You just need to get laid, sex isnt that big a deal. Well sex is a big deal, at least for me, Im not going to have it with just anyone, I shouldnt be shamed or forced into dating or marrying a woman who didnt take sex seriously. Your experience may vary. I met her online, she opened up to me pretty much straight away and has always been very honest with me. How is she wrong for engaging in adult like activity with another consenting adult? To judge them is just wrong and unfair. How many people have you slept with, Neighbor? i could never date no one thats slept with a lot of people. Oh Hell no!!! Hi Stephan, I wasnt offended by the term- hoe stroll. I continued to live. Women can love sex, yet reserve this for men for whom they have love, or with whom they are in a relationship. But then I brought the conversation back to the fast girls. Dont get me wrong, I understand that with higher numbers there is a higher chance of certain issues coming in to play that most men will not want to deal with. Women can sleep with men to get what they want and then dump them. I was always very in tuned with myself, much more than any other woman I knew. She told me one instance where she went to a party and simply grabbed some random guy there and went into a room with him to have sex, and she was fully conscious not drunk. Nothing wrong with that. i admit i do have trust issues but these men now days get around. HOWEVER, if the candidate was honest about their past and they were suitable, they stand as good a chance as any. Make smart choice with who you choice to sleep with and protect yourself and if your going to be a hoe men or woman stick your chest out and be honest with people about your numbers and your mates you dont have to tell everyone. But its so true guys have to work harder. Consider your 20s your best years is VERY subjective. They brag about it all the time when they want praise for being able to give birth. unwillingness to invest in a cheap female advertised with non-existent Hallelujah! For those who choose not to tell their mate about their pastWell, their mate just wouldnt know about it. Messing with them is the same as messing with everyone else they been with. What is insane to you is not going to be insane to someone else. This is just Like having a Second hand CAR on whom so many Drivers have been used that Car. I hit the cutoff line at 5 MAX. Is this maths answer correct for probability? I am the type that wants to get to know a women before I date her. You really want to marry miss double penetration? What I want to encourage you to do is to understand what is done is done. Statistically, men and women who have only had one sexual partner have stayed together longer than others. with.. Unless, an individual has medical issues I dont feel As ryaninfamous pointed out, women have the power to practically have sex with any man they want, whenever they want. Many people and the media would have people believe that women are so I wouldnt want you to spoil any future postings and have you divulge any top secret information on my behalf. You have more preconceptions than aporcupinehas quills. But you are as a person. So there is a responsibility on both ends. It matter amd why I dont see my damn comment I posted on here about thisarticle? Hello Stephen I think we should all face reality I dated a woman most wouldn't consider a beauty, but she was smart and funny and great in bed. They either find out later and it becomes a big issue, or they never find out but its those secrets that at times manifest into other issues. I am with you 100% on everything you said I am just wondering because I like your input you said everything for me! Statistically, relationships and marriage are more likely to fall apart the younger you are. CLICK HERE to download this special report. Yes there is a higher possibility of STDs but a woman could have only been with 2 men and be infected vs. the woman who had over 30 and is still disease free. Be happy you have a girl. There is so much more to point too that have a greater impact on a failing marriage. Amen brother. (tongue in cheek). Not too many women want a man that other women dont want. I understand more and more why God restricted it to marriage. Are you worried that you're bad at sex and she'll know because she's had more experience? Far from it, but I definitely am not gonna freak out about the numbers game! You should go ahead and try to remove the word "slut" from your vocabulary. God created us all to make mistakes and learn from those mistakes to become better people. Sex isnt an act that comes with an inherent morality- the ethical implications of sex all depend on the context. And some dudes value the experience of a woman who has been around. So many women who have waited seem to not be as open minded. If youre honest more than likely you wouldnt. A woman who cheats on her husband has violated their relationship. Fourth, I work globally. Why can a man act one way, and be a male whore, but as soon as a women states anything in reference to men and sex, she is a whore? Both come back to screw men. So when women say that having sex with lots of men is somehow acting like men, they are wrong. The fact is that how I have decided to look at my wife is not an issue within myself I look at her in the way she has represented herself to me if she has misrepresented and has been sleeping around she just built a lie around her and I have looking to a fake picture of the reality. If they are still like that and this doesnt play well in your life, move on. Marriage can't be only about sex. I love the fact the despite only being with one man, you are still able to take the position of not using someones past against them. They tend not to make good or reliable wives or mothers. IT SHOWS TOOI PREFER TO OFFER MY FUTURE SPOUSE A TIGHT POCKET BOOK NOT A BUCKET. Ive been in two serious relationships. I definitely would not marry a woman who has slept around a lot. I think it is a territorial issue that men have, so having to see other men that had your women bothers some. No, it should matter. So if your 30 and you had sex with 15 people, I say (if its true). These views are unrealistiic. She says she knew what she was doing but to me it seems like she was being used, and that hurts. Hes stating that their promiscuity prior to marriage has developed a mindset within them that they will never be satsatisfied with one man for very long. Big problem with your logic: when we are choosing a mate to be with, we inherently judge whether that person is the best for us to be with. Look at that women and realise that being a slut is not what men want. Ironic that you accuse someone else of being too lazy to link you to a study that you can just look up yourself, but didnt, because you werewelltoo lazy. I understand that, that may have not been what you were implying but the implication is there. It is amazing to see how in other older, as to how many people they have had sex with, I say that how old they Some women are not the same person they once were and I think more weight should be place on who they are now, not who they once were. Men are not exempt! Yes I think waiting till marriage is the best thing to do (which I will discuss in a future post) but I still acknowledge the fact that many of us make a choice to engage in sexual activity before marriage. Every man has to question how many men she slept with and isolate her and own her so she wont sleep around. I firmly believe that the more people that you date, the harder that it will be to find love. She will hardly change, Yes its does matter every man a woman sleeps with leaves DNA in them. Couple days later it turned to 9. Personally, the number of guys dated doesnt equal number bedded. Your comment finally got past moderation and was improved. Her not telling you how many men she slept with before she ever knew you is not the same. So either the person is tested positive or they test negative. If a woman is still behaving in a way you dont agree with then by all means keep it moving. Cant turn a hoe into a housewife. The amount of people Ive had If this sub of all places tells me it's a bad idea I still might go through with it anyway even if at that point it should be 100% decided that it's a bad idea. One of the men I sleep with wants to marry me and is very jealous. I agree totally. And when we end up with a man to settle down with, its like you expect us to know all the ropes cause you been around. Men are sure as hell trying to do it now! What if I through a monkey wrench to your logic by saying that this said slut you speak of was forced into prostitution when she was young, and therefore slept with a lot of men? Its not your fault. 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